The Great Team Green Debate

Our "big" ultrasound is coming up. I sincerely hope that they'll see all the parts they're supposed to see and nothing that's NOT supposed to be there. Otherwise, it will be sort of anticlimatic, since we don't want to know the gender.

You would not believe the controversy this has caused.

People apparently get very heavily invested into babies. Now, for me, I've had a few people in my family that have chosen not to know the sex of their baby before birth, and I looked forward to delivery day to find out what the baby would be. Besides, I figured it really wasn't any of my business if they chose to know the sex or not-it wasn't my baby, and it wasn't my decision.

When people ask us what we're having and we tell them that we want to be surprised, I've been told that we will totally regret not knowing the sex and that we should go ahead and tell the ultrasound tech to write it in my chart so that "when" we change our minds, we can just call the office and find out. I've been told by other people that they would just have to know the sex because they're "way too organized" not to know (I'm sorry, are you implying that because I don't want to know the sex of my baby, I'm unorganized?) I've also been told by people that they really want us to find out the sex so "they can be excited about the baby and buy it stuff." (This was said by someone who is going to be related to my child).

Hi, it's a BABY. A flippin' miracle. If you can't get excited about that because you don't know whether we're Team Blue or Team Pink, then that's your own problem....and frankly, if you can't be excited about my baby, then I don't need you to buy anything for my child anyway.

Of course, there have been tons of really sweet people who are like, "Wow, you want to be surprised?! Nobody wants to do that anymore! That's so awesome!"

I think it's really sweet of those people to say that, but my point is that it doesn't truly matter what other people think. This baby is our baby! It should be our right to decide whether we want to know the sex or not, and it's not fair of other people to try and sway us to do what they want us to do.

Just to be clear, I don't think there's anything wrong with finding out the sex of your baby! When we have a second baby, we plan to find out the sex (to find out if we need to buy new clothes or not). I just personally look forward to the excitement of having the baby and hearing "It's a.......!" I know people say that it's a surprise either way, whether you wait for the ultrasound or delivery, and that's true. I just choose to be surprised at delivery (that is, as long as the tech doesn't blurt it out next week before we can tell her we don't want to know!).

I'm certainly not telling other people not to find out the sex of their baby--to each his (her?) own! I just had no idea people had such definite opinions on the sex of other people's kids!